Friday July 4th, 2003
Party with Stacy / "Friends" Rant
I went to a party with some friends for the 4th of July. The house was amazing, a two floor place right on the beach. I was told that the owner of the house was a 23-year-old guy from USC whose parents paid for it in full as well as gave him the budget to do a few short films. Some guys have all the luck. I didn't really know that many people there and never met the owner of the house but that was fine because Stacy was there and I didn't really want to talk to anyone else.
Stacy and I mixed some deadly cocktails from the assortment of frosted bottles in the kitchen and went outside to the beach. We sat down in the sand somewhere between the house and the water yet with how dark it was I doubt anyone could have seen us. We were talking about holidays and visiting family and friends and what we each did the year before, usual stuff, than the fireworks started going off. I sat and watched her watching the fireworks as if she was a child who had never seen such things before. With the waves gently crashing against the shore and the fire works over head I knew the moment was right and leaned in to kiss her. “"What are you doing?" Not exactly the response I was looking for. Apparently I'm a “"Really nice guy" but she's not interested in me like that. The least she could do is have the common decency to lie to me and tell me she was seeing someone or something.
Time for a rant. O.K. I know I'm going to sound like an asshole here but I don't care. I have three really good friends and a dozen or so people I see every now and than. I'm not exactly looking to make more “"friends" and in truth I'd say the same goes for almost every guy out there. When a guy goes up to a girl in a bar it's not so he can have a new buddy to go see Terminator 3 with. Every female friend I have that wasn't someone I was trying to sleep with falls under one of following three categories:
1. Someone I work with and otherwise wouldn't have met.
2. A girlfriend or person dating a friend of mine.
3. Someone I met through my web site and have never met in person.
(Since I've never met anyone in person through my web site)
To make matters worse I think girls know this. I think most women are completely aware that most men wouldn't START talking to them if they didn't think there was a possibility of sex. Do I have female friends, yes. Do I value their friendship and respect them as much if not more than any guy, yes. Does that mean that's what I wanted when I started talking to them, hell no. If they weren't one of the three exceptions listed above I was picturing myself having sex with them before I even introduced myself, and guess what? That's every guy I know. Although every guy I know will deny it when confronted by a girl who is not one of the two exceptions (3 only applies to me) because they don't want to screw up their chances of screwing you.
One of my closest friends is a beautiful young woman who shall remain nameless whom I have been friends with for over eight years. I only have two friends I've known longer than her and maybe one that I'd consider a better friend than her. That said if she wasn't the best friend of my girlfriend eight years ago she would have never given me the time of day and I would have been thinking of her when I was with my girlfriend. (Well more than I did at least) I even asked her out once five years ago. She told me flat out that she didn't find me physically attractive but considered me her best friend and I respect her for her honesty to this day. She didn't hit on me, she didn't let me pay for anything, and she wasn't just another attention whore peddling the false hope of sex in exchange for a Corona. Want to be my friend? Tell me that in the first place rather than flirting with me and asking me to buy you a drink.
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